I am 5’10” and 189 lbs. OVERWEIGHT

It is a struggle. A real struggle. People always have an opinion. “Eat less; don’t snack when your kids snack; exercise more; don’t drink.” Well, honestly I want to snack with my kids; have a drink with my family and friends; find time to myself to exercise; ………maybe I don’t want to eat less, but I don’t want to be fat. I want that super sexy body I had in my 20s. Where did it go? Was it the 3 kids and 4 pregnancies or was it 10 years of maybe over abuse of food and lack of consistent exercise?
I constantly find myself like a yo-yo back and forth. A few weeks of strick dieting (clean eating) and daily exercise. Then a cold hits and gets me out of my positive routine, a hurt muscle, sheer annoyance that I have been working my butt off only to lose one pound, the list goes on and on. I just want to be skinny.